Other ADHD traits
Zoning out/daydreaming
It's common and normal for a person with ADHD to zone out, even in the middle of a conversation.
The ADHD brain receives tens and tens of thoughts and information at a time and unless what we do or listen to is REALLY captivating,
one thought can bump the focus on what you're doing and now you're focused on this other thought. And we can even forget we're in the middle of a conversation and interrupt people, cause we got a cool idea and we wanted to share.
It is NOT because we don't care. The ADHD brain don't ask for permission.
Inner Monologue
As said above, the ADHD brain receive thoughts, ideas and "what ifs" constantly.
ADHD people have what they call an inner monologue, a voice in their head talking almost all the time (sometimes it's music playing).
Intrusive thoughts
With so many thoughts bumping against each other, unwanted and sometimes creepy or unsettling thoughts are bound to happen.
It's normal, you're not suicidal nor crazy, let it slide.
Auditory Processing Disorder
It represents the way the brain hears and interprets sounds, voices, words and it is expressed in two main ways :
- Mishearing words
- Longer time lapse between the reception and the return of information.
Hyperfocus
The name speaks for itself. The ADHD brain can make someone hyperfocus for hours or days on a project or a subject. And it's not always (it actually is very rarely) the task and subject we should be focusing on for work, school of house chores.
Again... it is not a choice. It can be annoying to people living with someone ADHD, but hyperfocusing is often a source of pleasure and accomplishment for the ADHDer.
Time Blindness
People with ADHD perceive time differently (if at all). 2 days may feel like 3 months, and 6 months may feel like barely a week.
Difficulty to estimate how long something is gonna take. Getting into action on long term goals can be difficult because the end is too far and too blurry.
Out of sight, out of mind
What is not in front of our eyes, might just dissapear from the ADHD brain. It's about object permanence.
Objects... or people. One reason why most people with ADHD will be messy. It's not actually a mess, but if we put things away, we might never continue our project because it'll dissapear from our brain.
And there is nothing we can do to avoid forgetting. All we can do is find ways to have constant reminders.
Chasing the dopamine
We are not sure yet if the ADHD brain produces less dopamine or it's the dopamine receptor that receives less of what's produced, but ADHD people seem to "have less dopamine" (which is the reward hormone) than non-ADHDer.
Which makes ADHD people having trouble finishing projects when the hype is fading.
Which makes people with ADHD more at risk of developing an addiction or to eat lots of sugar.
Also, please understand that for a people with ADHD, the NEED and URGE to rearrange the furnitures of the bedroom or living room at 2am is VERY REAL.
We just CAN'T SLEEP if we don't do it!....
Hoarding
Many people with ADHD tend to not get rid of stuff, IN CASE they will need it again.
It might look like we hoard, but it's either that, or we just forget we have such a thing so how can we think about getting rid of it?...
Rejection Sensitivity
Living a life being told we don't make enough effort, that we don't care about stuff, to stop moving, to shut up, that we're being childish, being gaslight that "it's not that bad", that "it's in our head", being asked not to use our diagnosis as an "excuse", in short, not being listened to, considered, believed, being rejected and laughed at...
We end up living with trauma that shapes our perception of ourselves and others, making not only rejection, but the mere possibility of rejection or criticism, unbearable and incredibly emotionally painful.
This is not caprice, this is not weakness, it's the result of being rejected or criticised by the important or less important people in our life.